The Dangers of Fire; Mild or Wild

Remember when we were little and then your mum will try to warn you about fire?

They will make you believe it is so hot that it will burn your hands off.

That ignites your curiosity. You'd want to try it out yourself.

And worse if you're not the first born, your older siblings will just be playing with the same fire you were told is very dangerous. You'll just keep wondering if Mummy was right.

Gently, your siblings will invite you to try it out. Touch it fast and take off your hands. Fast! Just once!

You refuse the offer at first.

They'll invite you again, come on, see me do it. See? It doesn't hurt that bad. Just try it, it will make you a big boy, a big girl. You'll no longer be treated as a child. Just this once and you can confirm for yourself .

And with the speed of light, you try it out with the bulb of the kerosene lamp.

Ouch!

It hurts but just a bit. And it's delightfully warm too. Cool.

You stop for a few minutes to digest the experience and see if it will degenerate into something bigger or worse... Nothing happens.

Your brother smiles at you. Big girl, that's my boy. Oya, try it again, shebi you see it does not hurt. You gently smile and nod your head.

Then you remember Mum, what if she catches you here playing with 🔥? Won't she beat you?

You look at your brother in a questioning manner. He instantly understand.

"Don't worry about Mummy, I won't tell her. Besides, she's asleep now. Just try it again this last time."

Your face brightens up. Yes! We can now play with 🔥!

Welcome, the fire master!

You'll start playing with all the fire you see around, enjoying the little warmth that comes from it. You keep it private from your Mum, she must not know. For you and your brother, it's your little secret.

Days roll into weeks, weeks into months and then on a sunny afternoon, you sneak into the kitchen where your Mum was making joollof rice for lunch.

Yeeeepeeee, it's fire! Your new found friend. Even though you're barely as tall as the gas cooker, you enjoy the vooo vooo vooo sound coming from furiously burning fire.

Gently you look back to ensure you're alone. Yes. We're live on fire networks!

But then there's a problem, you're not tall enough to get to see this one properly. You can only see it from the sides.

You decide to damn the consequences and go for the jugular. Let's get something to climb this table.

Your Mum's stool just happens to be close by. Yes, that'll do just fine.

As heavy as it seems for you, you are able to get it to the side of the 6kg cylinder. Steady, steady, ready. You climb slowly.

Balance. We are right on top of this situation.

It's showtime baby! Let's show them. Who's da boss here?

Like you saw your brother do the week before, you pick the matchbox and bring out a stick. Point it towards the blue flames for a burst of energy.

Yeah boy, it works!

The matchstick catches fire.

You bring it out and watch as it burn .... Gradually it burns from the end down to where your fingers were holding the base.

Drop!!!

And you let go of it. You sure don't want it burning your hand.

Suddenly, you can feel a tingly, hot, searing feeling on your right foot.

Oh my! It's the ember of the matchstick!

Yeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Mummmmmmmmyyyyyy!!!!

You kick about to get the pain off your foot in all directions .

Before you know it, you've hit the pot of jollof rice on fire. Oh no, sorry, your leg is holding the handle.

And off the two of you goes... All the way down the floor with a hot pot.

Only your cries can be heard now. And the pain is so blinding that you don't even notice your Mum was already shouting for help too trying to get the boiled rice off your body.

Shouts. More shouts.

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Shouts. More shouts.

Blackout.
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You wake up to a very sharp pain wrapping your body, your face and your leg. Only your back and left limbs are spared.

As you gradually open your eyes, your mum's face is the first you see.

Tears roll down your eyes.

How can you say sorry?

Your heart shouts but makes no connection to your mouth.

"Mummy I'm sorry!

I should have listened to you. My brother tricked me into it."

Looking to your Mum's side, you can see your brother too looking remorseful. No one will ever know he was the one who introduced you to the game of fire. And he will never admit he caused this. He will claim you brought the pot of rice upon yourself.

And trust me dear friend, he'll be right.

Pick My Calls

Hey you.

Yes dear, you.

I've been calling your line now for the last 1 hour. I must have tried a hundred times. At first it was not going through. The network claimed responsibility. Later when it started ringing, so did my heart.

I was hoping to hear your voice from the other side, the voice that dopes my head. The soothing voice that calms my nerves.

I was hoping you'll pick and call me by that name only you invented and use exclusively for me. I wanted my heart to smile again.

All the while I waited with my heart close to my mouth, waiting to say 'hey dearie' like I always do.

The first one rang all through. Wasn't picked. I waited for a while more. Twasn't returned too.

I gave several reasons in your defence. I even lied to none other than myself.

Me told myself to get I to try again. At least, I could rest afterwards and claim I've tried. I did. Now with a relaxed mind. I kept whispering to me that your voice was soon going to replace the beeps.

It kept ringing. ringing. ringing. Till it rang out.

To the right, I thought you must be angry with me. I reasoned around it; the last time we spoke, the promises I made all over again, the apologies I made right on the spot. I had sworn to never allow it repeat itself and you replied with a smile.

The authenticity of the smile was confirmed by attempting to trace your neckline. You shuddered like you always do... My thing with you.

To the left, I thought you might be gone. The decision to finally leave me that has always been ringing in your heart loud enough to have been uttered must have suddenly engulfed you so well. The envelope might have restricted your hands from swiping right.

Oh no.

It can't be.

Not now. Not today.

I can't lose you today. This heart can't be broken today again.

The wound has only just begun to heal. I was just beginning to forget the past. The fatality with which you attacked my ailing heart when it mattered. The horror of discovering the lies you were brazenly displaying. The truth you were boldly hiding.

I forgave but the Mark was just beginning to erase in bits.

And now, your strength is finally allowing you go? Go away? From me?

The joy of having you back was just appearing after all the awkward moments of pretending that nothing happened.

Just now that your image in my head was beginning to come clean with your clothes on and your smiles bright.

Just now that my head was just forgetting the finite details of your detailed account of how deep you miss him being with you.

Just now.

Just now that the courage to love you is rising once more like a dodged fighter beaten to the grounds but with the winning determination.

My brain has been on fire.

I can't even think it through anymore.

Furiously, my fingers keep dialing. The phone keeps ringing. You're yet not picking.

I'll keep wondering here. I would be wrong I pray. You'll be alright I hope. My initial excuses would turn out to be correct. And my guesses of you forgetting your phone somewhere will be the truth. And at the end, I'll hear your worried voice saying

"Hello Kabiesi".

In Memory of Department of Corrections

Dear Department of Correction guys,

Oyinloye Oluwashola Abolarin Tomisin Joshua Emeka Samuel Onyekwere Philip Emmanuel Isaiah Timmy Duntoye Oluwashina, Pius, Storm, Abimbola Olusoji Johnson, Olaoti Yimika Otunola, and all whose names I might not have mentioned here that once upon a time passed through DoC: very importantly the ladies and the baes and all our wonderful neighbors especially Baba not forgetting all our loyal friends.

We've been through thick and thin. We've been through surplus and lack. We've been through war and love. We've been though times and season and I dare say; we won!

We might had our shortcomings and longcomings. We might made irreparable mistakes. The fact remains that the journey and the process of our becoming were sweeter than what we can just overlook in the history of each of our lives. The adventures, the thrill of trying it out, the satisfaction that comes from executing sometimes "evil" plans, the pain that comes from failures and the excitement that comes from achievements, all these we enjoyed... together.

The bond of our oneness has been tested and tried through various degrees of straining circumstances. Our Unity has been threatened by our inherently defiant natures itself. It all made us stronger and made the "us" stronger too.

You are never permitted to do anything alone in Department of Corrections. You can not eat alone, drink alone, laugh alone, watch films or use your system or phone alone, smile alone, enjoy alone, cry alone, be sad alone, dance alone, sing alone or play alone. Damn it, you are not even permitted to date your bae alone, she's "our" bae. You can never be alone in your fight, never alone with your thoughts, never alone in your plans and sure never alone in the executions. If there was one thing to do, you don't need to look back, guys are behind you solidly. Don't worry about whether it's right or wrong, we will discuss that later. Just don't enjoy this moment alone.

Guys, from us, I've learned not humility but equality. I've learned not how to love but what love truly means. It is never enough to share if you are not sharing more than you can. You guys are amazing. You guys are awesome.

Every single day away from "home" makes my heart grow fonder of those sweet moments... Sweet moments.... Sweet sweet moments. The early morning fights for water, puffpuff and bathroom space. The late evening sit-outs by the roadside discussing any mad issue that comes along. The thrill of just letting out steam through loud cries and shouts.... I just pity our Baba again sha. That man really tried. Now I get why he was always so angry with us yet cherished us.

"Nobody knows tomorrow, Only Eledumare".

I'm glad I met wonderful talents in persons of you guys. Emeka and Shina the dancers, Pius too brain ignite. Pastor Shola, Teejhay, Saintolar the wonderful musical crew. Philips, the great schemer and businessman, so wonderful in bringing ideas to reality.

Coach Soji who won medals while in school as both a coach and a player; talk about greatness in the making. Coach Abimbola, your life is an enigma, ma worry, them no fit understand. They don't believe in you now, they will form familiarity later. If there is anything I'm grateful forever for, it is meeting Idowu Olu through you. Never shy, always ready to attack. My religionist, dark arts ti take over... My astute businessman, it will all pay off in the end. Just keep at it.

Teejhay, my padi, the photoshop guru who took me on my first steps in Photography and photo editing; this is a wonderful planner when it comes to events and planning surprises. My journey with these shooting stars started with you bro. All the way back to C&S college. Resilient, tough, unyielding, brainy, quick, smart, always quick to build up the gang, mustering strength from grouping. A leader, an inspiration. You are a living photoshopped picture of Joshua. Always fighting wars, conquering territories, yet courageous to the bones. A daring friend and companion like him can make you get to the extra mile you never imagined. Nations will celebrate you, men will honour you, your life will shine brightly like the glow effect in photoshop. I don't need to tell you this but Tomisin, don't give up. The path ahead will lead you to greatness, I'm so sure of it.

Emeka, the silent powermonger; I'm yet to meet another guy who can so well predict ladies' acts with so many amazing plans for "just a date". A literary warrior with so many lovely articulate s-words to his arsenal. Your silent skill in dealing with giants and taming lions and befriending wolves while gently building up strength is something else. Everyone has something to learn from you. I've seen you smile, I've seen you dance, I've seen you act, I've seen you skate, I've heard and seen you sing, I've seen you angry, I've seen you mad, I've seen you cry, only that I'm yet to see you act stupid. Our Michael Jackson, Always with plans to execute. A guy who's got the back of anyone anytime anywhere. Always with a way out. Always with a helping hand. I'm sure I will see you flying one day. You deserve the wings.

Storm, though relatively new have been able to clearly put it to my face; business plans are a dime a dozen. Executing them is what counts and what pays. Now I know the mark of true friendship, being able to sleep beside a person who can't sleep without listening to some eerie music... eeew. I guess the way ahead of us is long enough.

Shina; my very wonderful former enemy. Can a guy argue better than you do? Always armed with facts, figures and files. Your level of reasoning and awesome creativity is 1 light year ahead of those who belittle you. Wonderful artist, smart composer, sharp dancer, streetly skater; words will fail me to explicate you to yourself. Very consistent, with the longest standing sweet relationship. You deserve the love you get. Though very crazy, I still love your ways bro. I still wish to learn some self-loving from you.

Pius Pius. Nwafor, my brother. Hmmm, very dangerous, very very very dangerous. Very artistic, with that tingling singing sound coming from those trained throats. Slayer of Theokoles, You are highly favoured. Your ways always very unique yet surprisingly effective. We can argue all day long about how to do it right and not do it at all but you, You don't need to do it right but you still do it anyways and get the deserved desired results. Though, I still want to knack some silence into you during those long sweet night calls of yours, I learned from them. Keep up the good works, it will work out.

Saintolar; my padi from primary school through secondary school and still here. Your current trail of success is due to one thing and one thing alone.... You always seek avenues to get better. I've never seen you stay on the same spot year-on-year. Keep going at it. The future holds something surprising for you. like the 3 wise men from the east, we have seen your star from a far. Though it tarries, wait for it.

Pastor Oluwashola. Hmmm. Father. Baba. Agba ti o binu lomo re npo. A father who seldom gets angry is surrounded by a lot of children. What can I say to make them understand how loving, how caring, how fatherly you are. You know the roles of a father and you so perfectly act them out so maturely. A wonderfully gifted and talented musician like you have no place in the crowd, you will shine brightly as the stars. Great footballers are not known by skills, they are known by goals. Your giving attitude still continues to amaze me. Meeting your awesome and ever-welcoming parents and loving siblings made me understand a little about why you can be so so so so hmmmm, so fatherly. I miss those times we gist privately. I smile when I remember all those late night trips to and fro our friends' places. So sweet a voice, so handsome a face, so manly yet so gentle. You are a rare make.

i don't wanna extend it over to our other guys. Save that for later. All our new guys, I cherish you. Kunle, Jude, Sadex, our ladies, Hikheoluwa Tiana Dibs.....

I wish I have something bigggggggggg to give you guys each as a present to say Thank You for passing time with me. Don't worry, your well deserved successes will be my God's way of repaying you back as rewards for your labour of love.

I Miss You Dearly.

Lies- Tinubu withdraws financial support for APC

I just read on Nairaland now of a Naij.com's post claiming that APC's chief Tinubu has stopped financially supporting the party due to some funny reasons based on his humiliation by the party chairman Oyegun.

That story is most likely a made-up story to make you believe that Tinubu is the one financing APC all these while. That is a blatant lie. The story has a particular objective and that is to make us believe that the President is not spending our money on the party. We are not babies.

I can assure you that APC's account as a party will still be as green as Arsenal's football field. Where are the war chests of dollars brought by Contestants during Primaries. So you mean Atiku is no longer supporting APC? Or Bukola Saraki is no longer in the party along with our VP Osinbajo with all those members of the Senate and House of representatives from APC.

I thought they are all supposed to make returns in form of financial commitment to the development and uplifting of the party. If you read the story properly, it was fabricated in such a way to make us believe that Tinubu's withdrawal of financial support is already hitting hard on the party secretariat in Abuja only giving us the excuse of them owing Abuja Electricity Distribution Company about 1.7 miilion naira and that they have just paid 500,000 naira.

Let's stop fooling ourselves; how many organisations forget to pay up EDC's and yet continue to be supplied electricity based on the fear of "connections"? So you assume in your wonderful mind that AEDC will disconnect the National Headquarters for the party of the incumbent president? Please reason about it again.

Lai Mohammed is going about scheming things for the government with a stolen chant just like they have been doing ever since. Change can only begin when the Presidency stop masking things with clouds of smoke.

Dear APC, you are now in power. We agree that lies brought you into power but please stop lying. If everyone fell for these, I won't.

Lemme quickly predict a few things that may soon follow this news or story.
- Tinubu should get ready for probe. So you mean he has been sponsoring APC all alone since 2014 when the elections were over? Chai, that must be a lot of money.

-APC will most likely distance themselves from the news if it gets out of hands. By that I mean, if Tinubu threatens the presidency based on this. Remember, Osinbajo remains the VP and Fashola the most powerful Minister after Buhari himself.

-The Nations Newspaper will carry a damaging story concerning the Presidency or APC as a whole or against on top official (most likely Oyegun or Amaechi) very soon.

-Let's watch as the drama unfolds.

P.S.
You have no right to believe everything said here. Make your own findings.

Let's play again friends

Hey pals,

I was checking up on myself using google and I discovered that this blog features me up better than most of my other blogs. I did enjoy all those good old days of ranting once in a while here on my personal junks.

I miss ranting and "junking". Yeah, believe me, most people's character gets formed by a lot of sharply contrasting and sometimes entirely different parts. Putting up all those parts together on one blog is most times discouraged. We live in a world of "focus". Happily, this is my personal page, for me and myself mostly just to keep track of my madness and creativity at the same time.

I welcome you to the playground of my mind. From now, I want you join you in seeing some old issues in new light. I'm inviting you to sit down here with me in my mind, think my thoughts, share my ideas and play my games. I should warn you though; the Samuel you know offline might be a lot different from what you have here. Don't expect any semblance though you might get some.

Please note:
I am solely entitled to my final interpretation of what I post here. You are also free to have your own interpretation. You are free to comment, discuss and compliment.

You are welcome to a fresh session of games.

Let's play again.

Things you can do to increase your traffic for free

Happy Valentine!
How's Blogging and today's celebration?

Today, I'll like to discuss with you on how to increase your blog's traffic. Traffic brings cash- end of story. I'm sure you know that already. So let's go straight to how to increase your blog's traffic without using the paid methods like-
- Pay-per-click programs
- Facebook ads
- Google Adwords
- Other ads services etc.

For new blogs, paid options might not always be the preferable option due to limited funds. But that does not say you shouldn't still get traffic.

There are simple techniques of doing that which I use and I tell you- they work. In fact, if done enough, they can be almost as effective as the paid options.

Now let's start.

1. Sharing on social media. You can use Facebook, twitter, G+, linkedin etc to bring in traffic to your blog. Also, social bookmarking sites like digg.com , stumbleupon.com , and so on can be used too. It'll be cool to share your blogs on such platforms but also allow others to do so by adding the sharing option to your pages. Just add the widget in the blogger layout- or google it- you can be sure of at least 100 percent increase in traffic if just newly implemented.

2. Use Pinging sites like Pingler.com . Pinging sites tell Search engines like Google.com , bing.com , ask.com and yahoo.com that you now have new content on your blog. Use them immediately you create a new post- this brings in more organic traffic- that's traffic from search engines.

Implement these two and tell me the results first then we'll move on to the rest.

My New Direction in the blogging line

Yesterday, I was about writing a post and my Spirit just stopped me and said- "Stop writing any blog post until you know who you writing to." I was shocked. I have read about the fact that a blog needs a targeted audience for effectiveness but I had completely ignored it. I never defined who I wanted my blog to address. It was just like writing a letter addressed to "Everybody"- such letters only get across to "Nobody"!

So, today- I'm finally defining who I'm addressing my Posts on this blog to. The person who I intend to get across to with this my blog is that young guy who is just starting a new blog and needs information about all what he needs to do concerning it. And plus, he's a young guy who's either a student or a graduate. He's educated but wants to make money through blogging. Also he's ambitious but needs focus. The guy also has limited resources but is seeking to expand his horizons. Mainly now. This blog is designed and hosted on the Blogger.com Network and so I expect him also to be on the blogger network. But occasionally I can post tips about other platforms such as typepad.com wordpress.org and others.

Thank you for following this blog all the while we had no direction, but now- we have a defined path and that is to impact Our Defined Young Guy's life.

-Samuel

The Recieving Law of the Universe

Have you ever wanted some amount of money urgently and you got it? Or maybe you didn't? Do you think it was coincidence? Or just pure luck?

Today, we're gonna uncover some truths about Recieving. We shall discover that nothing comes by shear luck or coincidence.

When the universe was fully made, everything needed was present in it as prepared by the Creator of the Universe. Even the Bible says that- After God had created everything, He looked at it and saw that everything in it was good! Or better still, it was Perfect! Remember, everything made was made in succession so that whatever will be needed by a group was made available before the making of such group- now, do you think it's shear luck or Coincidence that Man was the last creation of God? No, it was part of the original plan of God.
Do you even know the best part? After God made man, he breathe in him the breath of Life, and Man became a living being AND then God gave him DOMINION OVER ALL THINGS that were created before him! Isn't that wonderful? We're in Charge here! Not the Evil ones, not the Supernatural ones, We, the Humans, created in the Likeness of God, adorned with Glory and given all dominion over all other creations are the Ones in Charge! Wow!

So, how does that affect how we recieve anything? How does it bring food to your table?

1. Believe that everything you need in this Universe is Present in it. They don't spend the money you need in heaven, do they? It's here on earth! Do you need food? I've not heard of importation of yam or Rice from Heaven- it's all here on earth! All you first need to do is- Believe that everything you need is present here in the Universe.

2. Everything made was made for your convenience. Remember that in the analogy of creation, trees which are used in making paper used in making money was created before you- it's for your convenience! All animals and all food crops were made before you too! Don't cheat yourself- they are all for you.

3. Know that You are in charge. Not only were those things made for you, you are in charge of them. God Himself, the Creator of the whole universe gave you full authority and dominion over all other creations, so as long as what you want has been created- it's under your jurisdiction. You rule over it. This fact is what those who tame animals go along with. Every animal was subject to humans and so, even poisonous snakes have been tamed by humans who know their right. Know yours- you're in charge.

4. Make your request and the universe shall supply. Now that you know that the Universe contains all you need and everything was made for you and put under your control, now all you need is ASK for it. It's an established fact that those who Ask- recieves. If you don't ask you won't recieve. Take the story of the Prodigal son for example. All the prodigal son did was Ask and his father gave him his share of the inheritance. Even though he squandered it, he got it- and that's because he *asked* for it. His elder brother who got angry with their father when the younger one came back and asked to be taken back was rebuked by the father, the Father told him- Son, everything I have belongs to you, have you asked for one thing and I refused you?

This story is particularly representing many people in the world. We don't ask, we don't recieve and yet we complain.

Ask today!

Have you tried this before? Share your experience.

Make money via E- Textbook.

It's always a good thing to find new information. It's even better to share it. Today, I want to share with you a way through which you can make money online while being a student of an higher institution.

It's simple, but it requires some stuffs, among which are-
- Laptop.
- External Hard Disk or good Memory.
- Internet Connection.
- Empty or unused Disks.

The Business I'm talking about is one which can fetch you hundreds of Dollars or thousands of naira per month. It's very lucrative only if you know how to go about it.
The Business is about Selling E- Textbook in school. E- Textbook or Textbook in Ebook or .pdf format.

Many textbooks are already out online in Ebook format and can easily be accessed and downloaded just by searching at the right places or Asking Google.

Textbooks which are sold for up to #5k can now be downloaded for free on websites such as bookboons.org. That's business for you! Download relevant Textbooks to your Laptop and package it very well into empty Discs and sell it for like #200 or higher. It depends on you and the environment you find yourself.

You might be thinking- but everyone knows that- it's only a thought, confirm from one of your course mate and you'll be suprised to find out that they don't know. If they do, they are too lazy or too busy to do that. As a chemist, Organic Chemistry Textbooks in book formats sell for about #3k but I have 3 different ones on my laptop for free! And best of all, people get it from me and that is business.

So now, forget about the story.

Bring out your laptop>
Type the Name of that textbook + the author's name + edition + .pdf into Google>
Click to Download>>
Save to your Laptop Hard drive>>
Burn to Some Empty Discs>>
Package very well>>
Market to fellow Students-----

if you like, give them free or collect money. Na OnYourOwn you dey.

Improving your speaking skills.

Speaking is a work done by the brain through the use of the mouth compartment. Speaking is aided by a lot of other parts of the body but the essential truth is- it is done by the functionality of the brain, the mind and Personality.

A lot can be communicated by speaking. More can be communicated by acting but if can act as you speak, oh, what a wonderful combinative method of communication.

Whatever brought you here I want to believe is related to communicating better on a personal level. Speaking is unlike writing where you write to a person without having to be in physical contact with them but speaking involves at least listening to the person's voice and talking back to them. A good example will be when you make a call.

Speaking on the larger level involves speaking to a group of people who listens to you and respond through show of face or signals. When you speak either as a Motivational Speaker or as a stand up comedian, or a Guest speaker at some events, you only speak to arouse response- this is what we call e-motions, simply to me, they are expressive motions.

The art of speaking is one that is delicate whether it's to your friend or to your enemy, to familiar faces or strangers. Speaking can speak volumes about your personality. In fact, what you say can be used against you even in a court of law.

Human beings have languages in which they speak and communicate and that is one of the special features of Humans. Being a better communicator involves you being a better "human". Understanding how humans react to spoken words will go a long way in helping you Speak better.

Now, there are a lot of ways to be a better speaker, I'll be listing them below and I'll like if you can jot them down and "Mind" them as I go.

Ways to improve your Speaking skills.

1. Actions speak louder than words: I'm sure you're familiar with the saying, but I dare add to it today- Actions speak louder than words but you don't necessarily have to shout all the time- you just need to "say" for effect. There have been cases especially in relationships where people have made the mistake of acting more and saying less. Understand the fact that people can clearly remember what you said and hold you for it better than hold you for what you did. I can hold the fact that you Said "I love you" rather than you buying a gift, showing some care and other stuffs. Say it!

2. Use Actions more!: hmmm, am I not contradictory here? No, speak, but to make more effect, say it aloud by acting it out. If you say "stop" in a gentle voice or manner- you probably don't even mean it. But when you say stop with a good slap- he'll understand you better.

3. Say less- our problems may actually be that of saying too much. Speaking versus Effect curve as I have noticed is a curve like that of a Quadratic equation. At the beginning, the more you say, the more the effect, but it gets to a point where you need to stop because the more you say, the less effect. Learn how to understand that and you're a better communicator when you know when to stop.
I'll put that to practice now, I'll say less and leave the rest to your right mind.

4. Pause and wait for Response in every conversation. Don't be in a haste to pour all you've got to say into a person's brain, a lot will fall off the drain.

5. Add emotions- express your motions while saying. The reciever connects better.

6. Tell stories. If you don't know any, know your own.

7. Add Humor. And be particularly careful of how much of it you throw. It can mar your message if used wrongly.

8. Maintain eye contact whenever possible. The eyes have a way of communication that is superb. You can know when a person is about asking a question, getting what you're saying or not all by seeing though the eyes.

9. Make points and refer to them again. Repetition have a way of making it stick. Hammering more makes it get deeper.

10. Know when to and when not to Speak. The best speech at the worst time is a bad communicator.

I'm sure you've gained one or two things. Let me know if I'm wrong or if you've got more to add to Speaking Better.

Who is Oyedele Samuel to you?

I'm confused gan about my self. Am I an Industrial Chemist or a CEO? Or a friend or a Christian, or am I just that funny guy? Maybe I'm just that student or that dirty unkempt boy who never cares about his appearance. Maybe to you I'm Samuel, that poor boy with an abstract mentality of sensibility who doesn't even know how to call? Or to you I'm that friend- that emergency friend whose 911 number will always be available in time of trouble and yep, he'll do just justice. Or you think I'm that Brilliant Intelligent guy who's gat the answers to your questions but never enough answers to his own. Maybe to you I'm that guy that appears always too busy to notice you in your own corner. I'm sorry but that's just a part. And if you think Samuel is that emotionally detached guy who's got no heart, Thanks, at least you have an idea.
It's so confusing trying to put together the pieces to see who the Real me is. It's just...... A big Jig saw puzzle. What part do you hold on to? Who am I to you?

What do people like online?

Oh, you wanna know?
I also wanna know more too. But let me share what I think we all like in the online world with you and I'll listen to yours- promise you'll tell me? Okay, Let's go.

People like--
1. Free Stuffs!- This always rank highly on people's minds when searching for anything online. Free changes everything. That's why Google, Yahoo and Facebook will always remain tops in their niche- they offer great services FREE. Internet marketers have also learnt it- use the magic word- free and you'll have better Traffic, better conversion, more cash! Now wait wait wait. If I tell you just to comment below this topic, you probably won't- you think it's worth nothing. But if I simply say something like "COMMENT BELOW THIS TOPIC FOR FREE!" in the shouting format, You'll see a lot of comments- even people who only comment to know why it's free. We are all looking for ways to get good stuffs for free and when we see it free, we believe it was worth something before it was made free. The saddening part is that the word Free is now being misused. You'll see- download a free report only to later know that it's only to get your email and give you a piece of
advert to buy the real stuff. Well, you got it free anyway.

2. Trendy!- Oh, who won't like to go where the multitudes are gathered? Just the fact that you checked a lovely dress and you find out that it has not been checked out by anyone makes you think something is either wrong with the dress or you. Believe me, people rarely comment on a good post if there's no ice breaking comment on it. And people will follow the trend to comment even on a post of over 3 years just because it says- 163 comments. For God's sake, what's your concern again on such a post?! And Internet Marketers too are learning. They do it this way- I make a post on my blog, go back as Anonymous, comment on it controversially and expect others to start fighting and the trendlers come in to do the rest. Another side of trend- People on Social networks will rather like a page with about 2million likes than another with 200 Especially if half of their friends have already done so. That's why Facebook show you that- so, so and so and 97 other
friends likes/uses this page/app. It's all in the bid to get more from the Trendy guys and gals! And if I may add- gals are more Trend minded than guys- Support?

3. Simple, Fast, Easy!- Don't let me talk too much on that- it'll defeat the meaning. It's just you'll like Simply click a button Easily and Share this Post in 2 seconds! Isn't that fast?

Talk to ya later friend!
Ciao!

How many hours Sleep do you need?

Zzzzzzzz..........
Sleeping thingz.....

Have you been sleeping well of late?

I seriously doubt it. All these assignments and researches you do late into the night have been depriving you of good sleep and you should consider Sleeping More! Yeah man, that brain of your will function well if you can just allow it to relax better and more by resting.

Some Doctors said the ideal number of hours to sleep is 8 hours for children, 6 hours for Adults but I seriously disagree. Some others believe that to maximise your day you should even sleep for less hours- again, I believe that's totally wrong.

SLEEP MORE, GIVES MORE! More health and vitality is added to you when you give more time to sleeping. Sleeping allows your nerves to relax and move at their own pace. Sleeping enables you to focus more during the day time- which leads to better productivity.

And you want to know how many hours you should sleep? Sleep as soon as the Night darkens and wake up at dawn! That translates to Sleeping at around 7pm to 8pm and waking up at 6am- about 10 to 11 hours! O yeah! It's possible!

And plus, it won't affect your schedule. It simply implies that you need to reschedule your daily activities. Make sure all your office, school or business duties end by 5pm, get home before 6pm, shower and eat before 7pm and get into bed!

Sleeping also gives you more fresher skin, especially for people already sloping down from 40 years downwards. It increases your vitality and agility. It's quite better than any drug you might wanna use or have been using to prevent aging.

And for my Dearest students, your brain will work faster and better if you can just try to add an hour more of rest to your night or Day.

Imagine being able to solve more calculations within shorter time and smiling all through the day without getting stressed up. Imagine easily passing all your courses without having to cheat or stressing your brain out. It's possible! Just sleep more!

Don't think I'm overexaggerating the effects of Sleeping. I'm not. There are a lot of stuffs that Sleeping does for you that you might want to bother checking out on google.

Alright. 10 hours too much? Try and stick to at least 8 hours of Sleep per day. You can also split it to about 2 hours during the day for Siesta and the rest 6 hours during the night. But the downside of this for me is that I find it hard getting myself to sleep at night after sleeping during the day. So I just stick to Night Sleep only most times and take short eye-closed rests during the day.

How many hours do you sleep per day? Let us know in the comments!

Encouraging myself

What's up buddy

The times have been turning for Good for me of late. As it is being said, the darkest hour of the night is the one just before the new Dawn. So I really believe I'll overcome every trouble I'm currently facing right now.

Have you also heard that every time you ask the Police to comment on a very serious problem facing them, they always end their talk with " We are On Top of The Situation"
That makes me confident- I'm totally ahead of the Game! What stops me from excelling? NOTHING!
What stops me from making it to the top? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

So why am I downcasted and sad? Why should my soul be weary, why should I be scared of tomorrow when I know Him who Holds my Tomorrow?

The birds of the air don't plant and they don't die of hunger. The lilies of the valley don't buy clothes and they are always beautifully decorated. I'm an Human Being, made in the Creator's Image, why should I be scared for what I'll wear or Eat? Why Should Money put my mind to work only to worry. Money SHALL be my Slave! And not my Master.

I've learnt to look back everytime problem knocks and remember that other problems have come and gone! So the ones around me now are also here to Pass! They are not here to stay. Not even when it seems like they'll continually beat me down. I'll stand up and Face my Problems, I'll not try to ignore them or pretend as if they don't exist. I'll fight them one after the other. I'll take a step at a time and By His Grace, I Shall Win this Battle! And at the very end shout the final Order- THE BATTLE IS OVER!

And the real Fight back Starts Now!

Learning html, Java, CSS easily from W3schools.com

For those interested in learning about Html, web design, java, browser scripts, Css, PHP, XML, JQuery, Ajax, SQL etc and have been searching for where to do so for free and with easy to understand lessons blessed with a lot of easy to edit Tutorials- "try it yourself" then www.w3schools.com is your prime choice.

W3schools.com is made available by the World Wide Web Consortium. They are the ones really backing the web in terms of agreement on language formats and design standards. So you can trust them to give you the best. I'm sure you'll find their lessons easy to understand and explanatory. You'll be glad with all that they are willing to teach you anytime anywhere without requiring to Even Register. In fact, the lessons on Html Basics can be learnt on Mobile with the automated editable try-it-yourself examples.

And what's more is that this marvellous school is willing to certify you as a Standard Webdesigner and bless you with a certificate in any course you wish. All you need do is register for their certification exam at their website online for a small change- less than your budget on Adwords.

So if I were you as a blogger or as a non techie person who wants to learn and do so fast, I'll simply click on www.w3schools.com now and start.

The certificate you get will surely get you almost instant Jobs on freelance sites like Guru.com and elance.com . Don't just sit down idle, start Now!

To your success.
Oyedelejunks.blogspot.com

Godaddy.com automatic dns settings for blogger domains.

That's the simple fact for all bloggers seeking to buy a custom domain for their blogs. What I mean by Custom domain is a url without .blogspot.com extension like mine www.oyedelejunks.blogspot.com . I'll soon buy up a custom domain for it like I did with www.uniloringist.com .

The reason why I support Godaddy.com as the best is for the singular fact that they have an option for automatic configuration of blogger dns settings. You just click click and wait for about 24 hours and your custom domain is live! Isn't that awesome considering the fact that guys are out there paying for this same free service. I really don't blame them, that settings is a bit hectic to configure even with all the Google tutorial about it.

Now, the steps are simple and won't take your time. First head out to godaddy.com and purchase that domain name you want for very cheap with coupons and then go to blogger.com and login to your blog settings. Go to the basic settings and you'll see Publishing. That's where everything about domain name is. Just click on "add a custom domain" and type in the name you've purchased with WWW. Then go ahead and click on the link below to automatically configure the dns settings.

https://idp.godaddy.com/login.aspx?spkey=GDSWNET-P3PWCORPWEB103&target=http://www.godaddy.com/blog/bloggerdnssetup.aspx&redirect=false

Hope it works? Let me know in the comments.

Reading the wrong signals from a Relationship?

Let's talk about Relationships today.

Reading the wrong Signals from a relationship- has it ever happened to you?

For me, the answer is yes! In fact, From me too, many female friends are reading the wrong signals. A lot of times when a friend of the opposite sex is nice, caring, jovial and "jokious" with us, tells us about himself or herself and kinda singles us out of the crowd of others around- we immediately think that equals to Romantic interest whereas the person might just want a Simple Close Friendship with us and nothing more.

There are a number of reasons why that might be and I'll like to list some but not all for you- just to serve as a pointer.

1. The other person might feel more comfortable around the opposite sex and has chosen you to be close with, a person that listens, cares, encourages and advises genuinely usually fall into this trap a lot of times......
Ladies are the ones who sends this signals most. They many a times simply chose a guy who is nice, caring and interesting to be close with, expecting him to automatically understand that it is Simply Friendship. But most times, the guy takes it for a "courtship I.V."

2. Benefit friendship- A lady might be close to a guy because the guy is rich, brilliant or at a vantage position. The closeness is simply because of what she might gain not because of "LOVE".

3. He/She might also be interested but is just testing out various options on his/her list. And to all on that list, it's a signal for a Dating relationship. I really don't like falling in that "fight to the last man standing group" cos I'm jealous *he he he he*

4. You might also be reading the wrong signals due to the singular fact that your workplace or schedule puts both of you together and he or she is just killing time by chatting with you:-) Sorry, the moment that tight corner expands, your time elapses. For example, two teachers of the same subject that sit together during free periods in time same office alone will tend to read wrong signals while chatting with each other. But the moment one gets transferred, they forget each other.

And many more reasons why you could be reading the totally wrong signal. He/She is not ready for a relationship with you just because you chatted for 3 hours on IM.

Is there a way for you to detect such wrong signals?

Yeah. Sometimes it's easy to know it's the wrong signal but it's equally hard to believe because we humans like to live more in Illusion.

--When all your talk ends up with "can you do me a favour?" Or it's everytime she accepts your gift- it MIGHT be the wrong signal or the right one. It takes discretion.

->When you're the one doing the talking and he/she is just laughing at your jokes without contributing, watch out.

=>When he/she avoids your questions about relationship- it might be that he/she doesn't wanna hurt you by telling you about the special one in his/her life.

=> When all your chats, cuddles and laughs end up where you do it- office, class, etc. Please think deeper before popping the Question.

=>When she does what she's doing with you with another guy. Don't be blind to it- you're not special!

Save yourself the embarrassment, it's not everytime a lady or a guy gets close to you that they are aiming towards a relationship with you. It's more than that. Ask questions towards relationships stuffs before you pop the Question. Listen to his/her responses. It aids your decision better.

And even if no other person does, Remember, I Love You!

How to Increase your site's Traffic easily

Hey Bloggers! How has it been? Tough or Easy?

I want to really believe it's a mixture of both.

Today, let's talk about How to Increase your Pageviews which can automatically increase the number of clicks. But mind you- it may not increase your clicks.

Now to the main business, let me make it straight forward- Traffic flows from
>Forums- www.nairaland.com , www.myschool.com.ng , www.naijaloaded.com www.warriorforum.com , topix.com www.wickedfire.com , www.makemoneyonlineforum.com , internetmarketingforums.com dnforum.com forums.digitalpoint.com etc..,
>Social media Networks e.g. www.facebook.com , www.twitter.com , www.stumbleupon.com , google plus etc,
>Questions and answer sites e.g. www.answers.com,
>Directories- dmoz.com , planetusa.us
>Url submission to Search engines like google.com yahoo.com ask.com mamma.com
>Commentluv backlink commenting on blogs related to your niche and of high Page Rank- e.g. Nigerian - ogbongeblog.com , doncaprio.com , www.oyedelejunks.blogspot.com , internet marketing- problogger.net copymarketing.com johnchow.com , mashable.com etc
>Article directories like ezinearticles.com , myarticles.com helium.com etc.,
>Youtube videos,
>Hubpages,
>Email campaigns,
>Paid to click sites etc..

Get serious with those stuffs and you'll probably notice a 200 percent increase in traffic to your blog.
You can get more about Traffic @ http://buyall.igots.me . That's one of those of my start up blogs when I started blogging..

Before I go on, which niche are you- what are you blogging about? That determines how traffic flows to your site too. A blog tied with a popular stuff like ArsenalFans, mp3news, Obama, University of Lagos etc, like my www.uniloringist.com will easily get attention cos of the already popular brand involved.

So as not to make it too long, let me pause here and we'll continue later on....

From your Guy,
Oyedele.
oyedelejunks.blogspot.com

How to post to your blogspot blog using mobile phone through email

Is it possible?
Yes! It is. In fact, that's what I'm using to get this post on this blog www.oyedelejunks.blogspot.com .

Before, when google was still liberal with most browsers' interface- it was quite easy to Post to your blog on the Blogger blogspot platform via mobile using browsers like Opera mini, Ucweb, and bolt. But since bolt went off the reach of masses and Google started removing its support from a lot of browsers, especially old versions of Mozilla, internet explorer and others and on mobile- the browsers that come with a normal Java phone which most people use- Opera mini series. Now Google tries to get everyone to download Chrome, join googleplus, and get a gmail.com account. And as a blogger, you're expected to also have adsense, adwords, analytics, apps, and webmasters account, and to make posting of media easy for you- you'll need Picasa and Youtube accounts as well and the favourite place to be is in google groups while playing on google play, buying on googletrader, and searching on the Almighty Google Search Engine! Isn't this a monopoly of the Internet
world?. But, it's a good thing because all these Google products are good stuffs as google usually maintains best practices with all it's product. That's why I love Google! Very soon, I'll bring the justle and hustle between Google and Facebook to your full notice. It has been on now for about a year and I remember vividly that it has always been a source of disagreement between an online Marketing Colleague and I. And- I support Google!

Sorry for all those Googlers' ranting. Let's go back to what brought us here in the first place- remember- I'm posting this post via mobile by sending an email to post on my blog www.oyedelejunks.almigspot.com and I'm here to help you learn how to do just the same. So let's move on.

Posting is the main soul of your blog- a blog without reasonable posts is a dead blog! But there are some issues that hinder posting and those are the Issues I'm currently trashing. Like just of recent- I told you how to overcome the writers block and rally out ideas for posts on your blog. And today, it's about how you can post to your blog simply via that simple java phones that's got just any browser either supported or not by Google blogger interface.

Now the deal, it's simple. Blogger did a good thing by allowing email to post function. It's out there at the settings area.
1. Just log into your dashboard,
2. click on the blog that you want to enable the function on.
3. Click on Settings.
4. Under settings, you'll see mobile and email, click on it.
5. There'll be an option for you type in your secret word in a space between your email first part and @blogger.com like this johnwalker.[secret word]@blogger.com . You can now type in an easy to remember secret word into the space- make sure the secret word is short like 4 characters is enough. E.g. Johnwalker.junk@blogger.com

6. Now, save it and you can now set it to either post automatically when you send an email to that new address or leave in the draft for you to make corrections on later.
7. Go to your email box, add that your new email as a new contact with the name of the blog- for example My Health blog.

And yippy! You can now make your post by composing an email with the subject as the Topic of the post and the body as the full post itself. You're also allowed to upload pictures and other attachments on it. Just check the full functionality on Blogger.com .

Thank you!
Please don't forget to share to fellow bloggers and friends who you think will be interested.

To Our Success as Bloggers!
Samuel

Some things I've learnt in Life

During my few years on Earth, I've learnt some lessons which you might or might not have learnt. But I believe you'll benefit from it all the same. Even Psychologists confirms that the brain accepts what it listens to over and over again as Truth and Acts on it.
The stuffs below are my own personal beliefs- and I don't intend you to make believe me or not. All I want is to let you know. As someone rightly said- You're entitled to your own beliefs but not your own Set of Facts. Facts are general, Beliefs are personal.

Now let's go.

1. I've learnt to let things work out themselves after I've tried my best. Life is a hard knocker- but also it makes it own arrangements too. Or haven't you wondered why somethings would not work when you struggle for them- but when you just ignore them, things just seem to work together to make it happen. Take for example- there was a guy who while working in a reputable company wanted to build a house. He had all the necessary financial capability and time to do it but it just seem to slip by his hands, in fact, he bought a piece of land only for it to be taken over by the government. Then one thing led to another and he had to secure a job somewhere else with lower pay. But at his new working place, he joined a Thrift society and by the time He was to reap his share, a friend just brought an offer to buy a semi completed building to him and that was it- now he's a landlord.
So, when you're kicking at a door expecting it to open and it refuses- leave it alone, relax,- it might be Timed. What shall be Shall be.

2. There's a reason for everything but you don't have give a reason for everything.
Mistakes are meant to be made for growth not so that they can be placed as blame on others. Learn from your mistakes. Reasonable people don't give Reasons, they Simply Reason and learn to move forward while learning from the past.
Also, when good or bad things happen, you don't have to know why- you only need to keep doing what you're doing right, improve what you're not doing enough and quit what you're doing wrongly.

3. Nobody, Nothing is Indispensable! The indispensability theory is a big lie! Don't ever feel too important to ignore some people or places because you think if you're not there things won't work. It's a lie! I've been there and I left. I've been involved in organisations where I rose to high profile and held important positions and Because of that I thought if I'm not around things won't work. I discovered that everyone is on the look out for only themselves and Not the Number one! Everyone wants to be a number one, so why look out for another while you can concentrate on being one? So, even if you're the current Champion- you'll soon be history and the Barrack outlives the Soldier. One Leader that recognises this important fact is Mandela of South Africa- one of the best Presidents in Africa ever and he left office for others to do it. But look at Gaddafi of Libya, thinking he was the only one that can do it led to his shameful and tragedic death.

4. Change is the only constant thing in Life, aim always to change. Be contented with what you have while working for what you want- remember, a happy life is yours only when your mind is free of worries and troubles. Don't saddle up yourself with trivial stuffs. Not everything that matters Matters! Not all that glitter are gold. It may seem as if but it won't always be. Seek the more important Things first and then prioritize. Setting priority comes only after the Most important stuffs are outlined. Don't always stick to a plan- always plan to develop new plans as you go. The best of people are those who know exactly what they want and forge straight ahead to take the bull by the horn. If Life gives you Shit- use it as manure! Don't ignore anyone, you don't know who might be useful for what, when or where.

More to come from me. I just hope you come back for more www.oyedelejunks.blogspot.com

More so, endeavour to share to your friends.
Plus, let us know what you think below in the comments